The Book That Changed My Life {Book Club and a Give Away!}

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Since I’m prone to hyperbole, you might think the subject line is over-the-top or meant to trick you. It’s neither. It’s the truth and I believe this book can do the same for you. In case you haven’t heard, our book for the spring is: Expectations and Burnout: Women Surviving the Great Commission by Robynn Bliss and Sue Eenigenburg.

“Expectations” has become one of the buzz words of our modern lexicon. This book single handedly took this over-used but under-understood word and pulled the curtain back on our lives as cross-cultural workers. I can almost guarantee if you’ll journey with us through Expectations and Burnout by mid-May you will understand yourself, your family, your senders, your host culture, your team, and God better.

Hyperbole? No. Hope? Yes.

And to show how much we believe you need this book, we are offering a chance to win one of SEVEN copies — four paperback and three kindle —  for anyone who leaves a comment on this post. Winners announced at The Grove.

Here’s the plan for the spring and I’m excited because we’ve got enough time to really dive in. We will have guest posts from Robynn, an interview with Sue, and “Ask an Author.”

March 10 — Chapters 1-2 in the book — hearing Robynn’s story and more
March 17 — Chapter 3: exploring expectations of our roles
March 24 — Chapter 4-5: exploring  expectations of our sending fellowships and agencies
Mach 31 — Interview with Sue
April 7 — Chapter 6: exploring expectations of our co-workers
April 14 — Chapter 7:  exploring expectations of our host cultures
April 21 — Chapters 8-9:  exploring expectations of God
April 28 — Chapters 10-11: exploring burnout
May 5 — Chapter 12 and “Ask An Author”
May 12 — Round up/Summary

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If you haven’t joined book club before, this is a great book to start. For those of you who like to poke around and read more, Sue has written two other books Screams in the Desert and More Screams, Different DesertShe also blogs. Robynn posts on Fridays at Communicating Across Boundaries  and here’s a recent post about a hard birthday.

You’re going to love these ladies and their sincere desire to serve us. OK, I have to tell you Robynn isn’t a fan of KU and if you’ve lived anywhere near Kansas or went to KU (and I did! Go Hawks!), this might be a detriment. But it turns out, K-Staters are people too. Ha. Just kidding. But hopefully this gives you a sense of the fun we’ve been having getting ready for this spring. (And for those who read The Pastor’s Wife, I think of Ingeborg when I start a sentence with “But.”)

So, are you in? Want to win a free copy of the book? Even if you have it, who could you win it for and give the copy to?

Which area of expectations are you sensing God is inviting you to take a closer look at? Leave a comment (and if you want paperback or kindle) and you’re entered to win a copy.

With expectation! Amy

Disclosure : Amazon Affiliate links included in this post.  If you click through to Amazon, any purchase you make supports this site. 

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125 Comments

  1. Malia March 2, 2015

    Oh! This book is on my to-read list. I’m in for the reading and am feeling expectant too. I think chapters 3, 10, and 11 will be most pertinent to me. Thanks, Amy. ^^ (Also: I’m a Kindle girl.)

  2. Emily Daniell March 2, 2015

    I have had this book on my Amazon wishlist for a while now and really look forward to reading it!! I’ve heard great reviews from several different places. A free copy would be awesome!

    1. Emily Daniell March 2, 2015

      Whoops! Looks like I didn’t fully answer the question… I would like the paperback. (Haven’t brought myself to being a Kindle convert yet). And I’m looking forward to chapters 4-5, because we’re just getting started!

      1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

        No shame on not being a Kindle convert. One thing I don’t like about Kindle is it’s harder to share :). So, this just makes it easier for you to be generous! 🙂

  3. Amy S March 2, 2015

    This will be my first time to commit to the book club and I think the timing is right. The topic is something that is really on my heart for my own growth and to help and serve other women.

    I would love a free Kindle version!

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Welcome Amy! 🙂 Glad this is timely!

  4. Lisa Maxwell March 2, 2015

    Keeping healthy on the field is so important.  Often faulty “expectations” can cause problems. I would really like the Kindle version.

  5. Melissa Toews March 2, 2015

    Have been wanting to read this book for a while already! Would love a paperback copy.

  6. Grace L March 2, 2015

    I am looking forward to reading this book again. I read it a few years back at the recommendation of our member care person and it was very helpful.

    I am in particular looking forward to chapters 4 and 5 as we have recently had a change in leadership in our sending org, plus we will be visiting our supporting churches this spring.

    I don’t need a copy as I already have one on my Kindle. Thanks.

  7. Abigail March 2, 2015

    I’ve been struggling with trying not to have expectations with certain team members, to the point of avoiding them to give them more space, though I don’t think this is necessarily healthy. Seems this book is timely for me! 🙂 (Kindle)

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Abigail, I get it! It’s hard to know when to pull back (maybe for a season) and when to adjust. I’m looking forward to our discussions about these kinds of things!

  8. Laura M March 2, 2015

    Hey Amy,
    This would be my first time joining the book club since I’m fairly new to Velvet Ashes. I am really interested in chapters 8-9 talking about our expectations of God. In the past month this is a topic that keeps coming up and is something that I’m struggling with. I’d love a kindle version. God Bless!

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Welcome Laura! Ah, yes, even this week expectations and God came up for me. This is so important to talk about!

  9. Mel March 2, 2015

    I would love to read this. It’s on my wish list on amazon. It would be beneficial as I know I have expectations as we prep for Haiti. Thank you. I would love a paper copy.

  10. Carolyn March 2, 2015

    I’ve read about 1/2 of this book and have always been sad that I never finished it.  Glad to have a great reason to get on with it.  I want to think and pray through Ch 6 & 7.  Those will hit me where I am right now.  (Kindle please, since the hard copy is currently across the ocean!)

  11. Kristi March 2, 2015

    I really would like to read this book.  I’ve heard so much about it.  If possible I would like the kindle version.

     

     

  12. maia manchester (@doubleomoo) March 2, 2015

    I love Robynn’s work on Communicating Across Boundaries and would love this book, in paperback please! 😀

  13. Nikki March 2, 2015

    I’ve enjoyed the past two book club selections, and am looking forward to this one 🙂

  14. Heather March 2, 2015

    Super excited about this book! Would love the paperback copy!! Thanks so much for doing this…

  15. Heather March 2, 2015

    Super excited about this book! Would love the paperback copy!! Thanks so much for doing this…

  16. Jillian Rogers March 2, 2015

    I feel like this next Book Club is a gift from God! I’m struggling through reentry after an intense term. This particular book has been brought to my attention SO many times, and I’ve *intended* to read it for a long while now. I would love to have a Kindle edition, and I truly want to break in to Book Club with this amazing selection. Blessings to the VA ladies!

    1. Jillian Rogers March 2, 2015

      Crazy Internet…I have NO idea why I have a gigantic picture, and I can’t make it go away. *Face palm*

      1. Michele Womble March 3, 2015

        Your gigantic picture is beautiful, and you look so happy that it made me happy.  Maybe that’s why you have a gigantic picture today. 🙂

        1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

          I agree! I could remove it, and if you really want, i will. But it made me so happy to see your smiling face!

  17. Jewel March 2, 2015

    I know that I will buy the book if I have to, but a free one would be awesome!!  🙂  Only on Kindle though because rainy jungle life isn’t friendly to books.

  18. reny March 2, 2015

    I discovered Velvet Ashes as it launched into the first week of reading The Pastor’s Wife.  I cannot remember the last time I read a novel, and I have done very little reading for the past two years.  I took the plunge and loved reading both the book and the comments posted.  Thank you for providing a venue to restore this area for me!  I want to read Expectations and Burnout also. Since I was previously unaware of this book, my expectations are general with my interest piqued by those who have commented here.  I would be very excited to win the Kindle version!  🙂

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Reny, so glad you took the plunge! I love reading in community and glad to have you with us 🙂

  19. emily March 2, 2015

    Looking forward to reading this one. I would love a kindle copy of this book if I were to win.

  20. Lisette March 2, 2015

    I am very excited about this book! Thanks for the giveaway.

  21. Danielle March 2, 2015

    I am so looking forward to reading this book! This will also be my first time joining the book club! (Paperback copy please!)

  22. Liz Schouten March 2, 2015

    Hey, friends. This sounds like a wonderful book. I’d love to win a copy. If I don’t, well, I think I might actually fork out for this one. I do feel a need to understand my own and others expectations better.

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Liz, tis true, the more I understand myself and others, the better I do overall!  

  23. Lisa March 2, 2015

    I am looking forward to chapter 3 as I navigate a new role in a new overseas organization. I would love a kindle copy!

  24. Linda March 2, 2015

    This is a gift from God, I was prayerfully considering joining the book club, and now you have chosen the perfect book.  I’ve been wrestling with the expectations of the people back home that we should be suffering more.  But chapters 4 and 10 look inviting.  I look forward, to the Kindle version.

     

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Ah yes, the tensions we feel in relationship to people and culture “back home.” This will be good to talk about too!

  25. Erica D. March 2, 2015

    What are the expectations placed on me as a single woman on the field? Looking forward to reading this one and thinking about this. A Kindle copy would be awesome!

  26. Jody Hagen March 2, 2015

    Until today, hadn’t heard of this book. We just come to a decision this past week about timing and it looks as though my family will be moving to China in August!!! Definitely looks like a great book. Paperback for me, should I win. Looking forward to getting more involved  here!

    1. Jody Hagen March 2, 2015

      That should have said. …”we came”… dingy autocorrect!

  27. Clarissa March 2, 2015

    This looks like an amazing book! Even though I haven’t participated in book club by reading the book/commenting I always enjoy reading and learning from what others are processing through. The Velvet Ashes Live event was so good (I just reviewed my notes from it this morning) that it really piqued my interest in talking/learning more about expectations. This could be the book that I jump in on! 🙂 Growing up overseas I have firsthand experience with burnout, its one of the reasons my family came back unexpectedly from the field, and as a ministry kid/adult expectations layer my life. I would love the kindle copy of this book.

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Clarissa, I really hope you’re able to provide some insight as a kid who has traveled these roads! Welcome, welcome!

  28. Shelly March 2, 2015

    Which expectations might God be asking me to take a closer look at? Can I just say ALL of them!? 🙂 My roles (3) and of God (8-9) are two that stand out to me in the list.

    I prefer a paperback, but can accommodate a Kindle now that I have a little tablet.

  29. brooke March 2, 2015

    I think it would be interesting to see how all these expectations intermingle. We often study one or the other, even criticizing ourselves in one area or the other. Yet, how do I meet all these expectations at once is what causes burnout!    I’m interested in a Kindle version.

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      So true! Expectations rarely stay neatly in just one, well-defined box :). Good point! 

  30. Kristi Krauss March 3, 2015

    Sounds like a great “spring-cleanin” book for my innards. I bet expectations have a LOT to do with burn-out. Count me in for readin with ya’all. 🙂

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Love the idea of doing some spring cleaning for our innards!

  31. Stephany March 3, 2015

    I confess I’m a little jittery about committing to a book club, but I love reading and this book definitely sounds timely and applicable to the season I am in. Expectations pull and propel many areas of my life. (I would love to win a paperback, as I haven’t entered the digital era yet.) Thanks.  Looking forward to it.

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Stephany, no pressure if you miss a week or need to take a break :). We’d love to have you whenever you’re able to participate!

  32. Hannah Cowen March 3, 2015

    This book sounds amazing! I think expectations of coworkers on the field is the biggest one I’ve wrestled with lately. Would love a free paperback copy 🙂

  33. Ashley E March 3, 2015

    I would love a paperback copy of this book!  This will be great preparation for me as we set out to our country next year!

  34. Lydia March 3, 2015

    What a timely book! I’ve been wrestling with a lot of expectations lately… Of myself on the field and as a wife… The expectations of the host culture for what a good wife is responsible for (including my husband’s health! Yikes!)… And even expectations of God. I’m definitely looking forward to reading it (on my kindle). 🙂

  35. Ashley March 3, 2015

    I joined the book club last month and really enjoyed the book! This next book sounds so helpful and encouraging as we have been on the field for 8 months now. I would love a Kindle copy!

  36. Karin March 3, 2015

    I look forward to chapter 3! A kindle copy would be nice.

  37. Katie March 3, 2015

    I’ve been married for 7 months and on the field for 6 months, and I can already see the devastating impact that my own expectations have had on my ministry, marriage, and relationship with God as well my relationships in my host culture and with folks back home.  I’m hungry for knowledge and insight from women who’ve gone before me!  Help!  (I’m a Kindle girl!  Thanks!)

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Katie — Wow, you’ve gone through a lot in less than a year! I’m glad that we can come along side you :). As we go along, if you have specfic quesitons I don’t think of to ask, please feel free to chime in and tap into the experience and support you’ll find here. 

  38. Kate Moala March 3, 2015

    oh wow this book sounds exactly what I need to learn… Been on the field for 5 years now and been close to burn out several times…

  39. Amanda K March 3, 2015

    I’ve read reviews of this book and it looks so great! It’s been on my ‘wish list’ for a bit and would love a copy!

  40. Esther Van Niekerk March 3, 2015

    Hi there, this is the first time I will be joining the book club.  We have only been living overseas for 3 months now, and already has to leave for a visa issue, hoping to be back soon. I am homeschooling my 3 young children and in the process of adopting a forth child in our host country. My expectactions coming here were higher that I what the reality is. Sometimes you hit that dip you have been warned about that you are supposed to reach only when you are six or more months gone. I truly want to do this book with you, never heard about the book but believe this is what I need right now. That community of a book club and just all of you guys understanding what is happening, because you have been through this.  If you decide to give me on of the books. Our postal service is not reliable in this country so I would prefer a kindle version of the book.  Thank you so much for all everyone is doing at Velvet ashes. You guys are a live saver.

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Esther, so glad you found us! I think the “shoulds” of when this or that part of adjustment to the field are helpful when we remember they are guides :). I’m praying now that you will not feel shame for hitting them at different times and instead experience grace that each of our paths are our own 🙂 and OK to be different! You have a lot on your plate 🙂 … and I hope you are able to extend grace to yourself that you ARE enough and therefore whatever you’re doing is enough. Rest in “enough” today. And welcome to book club!

  41. Esther Van Niekerk March 3, 2015

    It seems my profile pic when rough on me! – oops!

  42. Mindy B March 3, 2015

    We’re preparing for a home assignment after five years in our present location.  So I’m feeling rather stressed about trying to get things packed up in the next few months to store while still keeping life somewhat “normal” with my husband and twin 4-year-olds and trying to say meaningful “goodbyes” to lots of friends here.  I’m sure I’m also forming expectations for our year of home assignment as well.  This sounds like a book I need to read and ponder!  I’d prefer the paper version.

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Mindy, love how you remind us of the expectations we have where we are now AND for what the near future may bring. Grace and peace for the months ahead 🙂 … sprinkled with laughs and fun too!

  43. Sydnie March 3, 2015

    This book def sounds interesting. Living overseas has been nothing if not a crash course in surrendering my expectations to the Lord. (I use kindle).

  44. Janis March 3, 2015

    I am looking forward to reading this one for my first try with the book club.  My hardest expectations are the too high expectations I have for myself.  Would love to have a kindle copy.  Thanks for providing this chance for ladies to share.

    1. Amy Young March 3, 2015

      Janis, and thanks to all of YOU for participating :). I love how we help each other!

  45. Sherri March 3, 2015

    Last week I heard someone say at a tea for overseas working ladies: “Expectations are premeditated resentments.” Wow! So true. And I’ve been on both sides of that: doing the resenting and being resented because I didn’t live up to someone’s expectations. This book has been on my wish list for awhile. Looking forward to reading it together!

    1. Sherri March 3, 2015

      Sorry. Didn’t read the instructions thoroughly! I’d prefer a Kindle version. Thanks.

       

  46. Phyllis March 3, 2015

    I would love to get a free copy to read along. It would probably have to be Kindle.

  47. Deborah March 3, 2015

    So excited about this new book would love it on kindle.

  48. Julie March 3, 2015

    This sounds fascinating!  Definitely interested in Chapter 3 and the Kindle version. 🙂

  49. Catherine March 3, 2015

    Looking forward to reading this and sharing with you guys and also hopefully with my friends here on the field too. Lots to talk about! I’d love a paper copy!

  50. Karen Malsack March 3, 2015

    This is my first time to find your site, and so thankful I did. It is my 6th year in the field and I’ve been close to burnout lately, so perhaps the Lord’s timing is perfect. I would love to receive the book any way it can be sent, because it may just be what I really need now.

  51. Karen Malsack March 3, 2015

    I just found your site today and am so thankful I did. It is my sixth year in the field, and I’ve been close to burnout lately, so perhaps it’s the Lord’s perfect timing I’m here now. I would love to receive the book anyway possible as it may be just what I need at this time in my journey.

  52. Tori March 3, 2015

    This looks like a great book as we close up our first 4 years here and prepare for a year of home assignment. I’m particularly interested in the team expectations as well as the burn out chapters. I’d prefer a kindle copy, but would take either. Thanks.

  53. Michele Womble March 3, 2015

    I tried to participate with the last book but couldn’t keep up (due to my own roles right now) but HOPE I’ll be able to keep up with this one. Sounds like a great book – I’d like to add a chapter, though: exploring My own expectations of myself. (although I guess that’s probably included as you go.)

  54. Hadassah March 3, 2015

    I am heading out for my first term hopefully within the year so I’m sure there are many areas this will apply to.  Although I love paper back books, I’m trying to cut down, so kindle is probably best

  55. Christine March 3, 2015

    Wow.  Tons of comments!  Your book club has encouraged me to pick up books I might not have otherwise committed to.  I am interested in this because I have read many of Robynn’s blogs which are always refreshing.  And I am interested in the topic on exploring burnout.  I wonder if there are connections with depression which is also not an easy topic.

    1. Amy Young March 4, 2015

      Christine, I would bet though there’s not always a connection, there certainly can be a relationship!

  56. Raquel March 3, 2015

    I’m usually a week or 2 behind on the book club, haven’t been able to quite catch up yet, but hope to for this one!! Sounds like the timing of this book is good for many of us. I’ll be starting a new job stateside soon & could use this info before I’m in over my head… Although I feel like I will be from day one! Ha! (I’m happy with either form of book!)

    1. ErinMP March 3, 2015

      What is your new job?

  57. ErinMP March 3, 2015

    I’ve only been on the field for 7 months and I already feel close to burn out some days. Is this normal??

    1. Martha Wright March 3, 2015

      I would think this could be very normal for many people – and good that you are noticing it!  So now you can look at your life and see what needs to be adjusted.  Sounds like a good call on your part.

  58. Martha Wright March 3, 2015

    This sounds like a wonderful book!  Our lives are always in the middle of or on the verge of major transition, and this sounds like something that could be of great benefit to me, my family, & my colleagues.

  59. CJ March 3, 2015

    Pick me! I’d love a copy! (paperback or kindle, I guess kindle is easier to transport 😉 ). I was dancing on the verge of burnout for a while and would love to explore this topic more as I await a new ministry placement and want to develop expectations that won’t lead to burnout!

  60. Vivienne March 3, 2015

    Hi everyone. I’m new to the book club and live in Bangalore, India. I’ve bought the kindle version and have started reading it. Looking forward to the discussions. If I could win a paperback version I can think of a few friends who would also like the book.

  61. Angie March 3, 2015

    Chapter 3 and 6 look great for me to read. I’d like a paperback so I can pass it around to my teammates when we get to the field in 4 months!

  62. Cheryl March 3, 2015

    This looks excellent!

  63. Maggie Loftus March 3, 2015

    ooh, i’d like to read this!

  64. Catty-G March 3, 2015

    I love this book and would like to win a copy to give to a friend.  We both work in Chad but as my copy is digital, I can’t share it with her, as we live 1000km apart.  Thank you for recommending this book to everyone on here.

  65. Ellen Benefield March 3, 2015

    I’m interested.

  66. Laura March 3, 2015

    As we are coming up to our 1 year anniversary on the field, my husband has been encouraging me reevaluate the expectations I have for myself and set realistic ones.  Some days I think I should be able to everything – an unrealistic expectation in any culture or country! (Kindle)

  67. Bayta March 3, 2015

    I’m excited!  Last time I checked on amazon.de, the book didn’t seem to be available.  But now it’s there and I’ll get to read it!!!  Would love a paperback copy 🙂

  68. Lindsy Wallace March 3, 2015

    Oh yes, would love this. God has shown up in big ways in our life this year and I’m finding myself on the other side of that mountain in a bit of a ravine and struggling a bit to expect God to continue working. I’m an ink on paper girl but would be fine with Kindle if that’s easier/more available.

  69. Ruthie Howard March 3, 2015

    This looks like a great read! I just returned from furlough, but feel burnout is not so far away – again. It seems I have a lot of expectations – from others, myself and from God. I would love a Kindle version. 🙂

    1. Amy Young March 4, 2015

      Ruthie, in light of this … we appreciate all the more your willingness to serve as a Connection Group Mentor! 🙂

  70. Linda Schrock March 4, 2015

    This book has been on my to-read list for some time. I have been on the field for eight years, and will be taking a year leave partially due to burn-out. I would love to read this book and help set some realistic expectations, both now and when I return. Kindle or paperback would be fine, but I would prefer paperback. That way I could share with some other overseas workers here in Ukraine. And by the way, I love Velvet Ashes! It has been a real encouragement to me.

  71. Valerie March 4, 2015

    I think chapters 6-7 will be most relevant to me.  Would love to win a Kindle version.  Thanks!

  72. Holly Schmidt March 4, 2015

    My husband and I are the training directors for YWAM Panama City, Panama. We have been in overseas work since 1993…some stateside , some foreign. LOTS OF EXPECATION ISSUES OVER THE YEARS…some unmet, some towards us as leaders and some we had  within ministries.  Our staff, me included, yet again, has had some adjustments as we moved from the jungle to the city as we are pioneering new ministries in the city. My husband was trying to encourage them that struggles with unmet expectations can cause disappointment and stress. Many times people leave the overseas field over these very things that if understood, could be worked out. His example was: if your expection is at this level and he holds his hand at eye level and your reality is at this level and he holds his hand at chest level, then everything in between, this gap, is a place for disappointment and frustration. It was like a lightbulb went off in our heads. Unmet expectations  can cripple us if not dealt with.

    We would love to receive the book as a tool, not only for our growth, sanity and continued longevity on the overseas field, but it may become a resource we could use in our training department. (Love kindle as internatioanl charges about do me in.)

  73. Leigha March 4, 2015

    I’m in, this sounds like one I definitely need to read (on my kindle), like right now.

  74. Ellie March 4, 2015

    I think this book looks great and might be very useful both for using with others who come to the field and for ourselves.

    Having come to the field with one agency, sadly had to leave and joined another one, along with having worked with various different churches in our lives and being 3 out of 4 different on Myers Briggs scale compared with my husband we are no strangers to the importance of expectations, but this looks very exciting as it is written particularly for and by women and looks really interesting and practical.

    I would love a paperback copy.

  75. Victoria March 4, 2015

    This looks like an amazing book! I can’t wait to read it! I’m also excited about the book club schedule. I think this will be really helpful since this topic is a very real struggle. I just finished The Pastor’s Wife last night (better late than never) and wow! I was blown away. Lots to think about in that book! I’m so happy about this book club. (I use a kindle)

  76. Connie March 4, 2015

    Sounds like this would be a great addition to my Kindle.  We have been serving in SE Asia for almost a year.  It’s been quite a time of acclimating to new culture, roles, environment, etc.  One thing that has helped has been keeping track of our beloved Jayhawks! Rock Chalk Jayhawk, Go KU!!!

     

    1. Amy Young March 4, 2015

      Far above the Golden Valley glorious to view …. stands our noble alma matter towering towards the blue :). GO KU!

    2. Amy Young March 4, 2015

      Agreed! Jayhawks help with sanity … regardless of where in the world you are :). Hello fellow Hawk 🙂

  77. Jenny Johnson March 4, 2015

    I am looking forward to reading this book.  It looks like it will be very relevant and I hope that it can affect my life as it has others.  Chapters 6 & 8-9 look really interesting.  (PS. I would love a kindle copy to share)

  78. Sarah W March 4, 2015

    Ah, expectations – who hasn’t been caught in their undertow and swept off to somewhere you would rather not be? I’m looking forward to discussion about expectations around senders, co-workers and God – what exactly is this work meant to be all about and why do we have to do it together? Kindle is my preference. 🙂

  79. Lyn March 4, 2015

    I am very excited about reading this book (paperback). I will buy one even if I don’t win one.

  80. Amanda K. March 5, 2015

    Oh, yes. What good timing… as I think about how to in healthy ways pour myself out, while filling up at the Source at every opportunity, laughing and crying some along the way. Though I especially love the feel of paper in my hands, I would love either version of the book.

  81. Esteci March 5, 2015

    Great response to this post! I have the pleasure of knowing Sue personally, though I have yet to read this book of hers. She’s genuine and witty. This is going to be a good book club month!

    Kindle, please! 😉

  82. Monica March 5, 2015

    When we arrived back in the States 9 months ago for our first Sabbatical ever (15 years primarily overseas)- I totally denied I was in burn out.  First clue- hello!?  Having had time to reflect, receive care at a overseas worker care center, and unrush my life- I realized how truly exhausted, angry and running on empty I was.  This book was on my to-read list!  I’ve been wanting to read this book with my two sisters (who are also overseas workers).  Maybe I can get them to join the book club with me!

  83. Marta March 7, 2015

    This is very timely for me.  I was just praying the other day about my expectations.  I’m just about to complete my 4th month of my second term here in DR-Congo and things are so different this time.  A good friend of mine was telling me near the end of my term last time how frustrations are just unmet expectations.  I got frustrated the other day and stopped to think about what my expectations are and how they are not being met.  I think I need to read this book!!  I would love a free Kindle copy!!

    By the way….I am really enjoying this site.  Thank you so much for taking time to encourage women working in cross-cultural ministry.

  84. Marta March 7, 2015

    By the way…..Go Jayhawks!  Also, go K-State!  Only because I’m from KS and I’m indifferent! 🙂

  85. Linda March 8, 2015

    I love your posts and relate to so many topics that you bring to the table. It’s been my privilege to recommend Velvet Ashes to my friends. I haven’t joined a book club yet, but this one really appeals to me, and the timing in my life might work out too. 🙂 I have no preference for Kindle or paperback; I do both.

  86. Carrie March 8, 2015

    Thank you for this giveaway. I would love to win a copy. A kindle copy
    or paperback would be fine since we can get packages where we live.

  87. Anita March 9, 2015

    I have been living overseas for the last 23 years and have definitely experienced my fair share of what this book will be talking about, expectations and burnout. I am especially looking forward to the chapter 7 learning about our host culture because I want to never get arrogant and think I have nothing to learn. Recently read a book by Sarah Lanier called Foreign to Familiar: A guide to understanding Hot – and Cold – Climate Cultures which I wished I had read 20 years ago.  Hoping to glean some new jewels to add to my resource closet in dealing with life overseas! Would love to have a kindle copy.

  88. Anna March 9, 2015

    I haven’t done the book club yet, mostly due to limited internet & connectivity.  A friend loaned this book to me a few months back, and it was great!  I’m hoping to be able to jump into the discussion with this one!

  89. Steve Limiero February 12, 2016

    I was just referred to your website.  My wife and I have served overseas for over 12 years now.  She grew up as a TCK kid in Africa and is a third generation overseas worker. This sight is great and I will be showing it to her.  This book looks great as well.  It would be a good read for her and for me!

    Thanks for your ministry

  90. Catherine Grier February 12, 2016

    I already own this book and want to highly recommend it for women living overseas.   Enjoy it.  I still refer back to it and refer others to it.

     

  91. Paula Dannenberg February 16, 2016

    Oh Amy, I would LOVE to read this book. I’ve been following VA for a few months, but never had the opportunity to sign up for the book club. Living in and out of a third-world country for the last 26 years, we have probably come close to burnout. Since I tend to be harder on myself than anyone else, God is helping me to work on expectations. It would be helpful to have interaction with others. If chosen for a free copy, Kindle please. If not, I want to buy it.

  92. Michelle Peterson February 29, 2016

    Exciting!  Thanks for facilitating this!!!  I am hoping to join with you all!!!  Blessings!!!

  93. Theresa March 8, 2016

    I was just talking the other day with a coworker here on the field about expectations and how dangerous they can be for us. They can really take away our joy. I hope to join you all in reading through this book.

  94. Kellie March 12, 2016

    Is it too late to join?  I would love Kindle version-actually I have a free sample chapter  b/c I had stumbled onto this book and wanted it!  🙂  I didn’t read the instructions carefully enough  . . .

  95. Stella March 13, 2016

    I will so be joining in, I stumbled on this post while registering for “The Retreat.” Thanks for providing opportunities to connect with others who can relate to our similar shared journey. Blessings Stella

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