Have You Seen? {February 3, 2019}

Welcome to Have You Seen? We’ll review last week and share other posts from around the web. Enjoy rest and renewal while you cozy up for some soul-food reading.

Last Week’s Theme: Authentic

Let’s Drop the Cliché by Joy Smalley—”Have you ever wondered who you really are? Have you ever said something and wondered if you truly believe those words are true? Have you ever wondered how much of what you say actually comes from the depths of you and how much is a repeat of someone else’s ideas or thoughts or beliefs? I have.”

It’s Not All In Your Head {Book Club} by Sarah Hilkemann—”Where do we go from here? As we have come to understand ourselves and each other a little bit better, I hope our response is compassion. I can learn to give grace to myself when I am feeling overwhelmed, and I can respond to others and the different ways they look at the world with a desire for understanding rather than judgment. As you’ve grown in understanding more about yourself through the tool of the Enneagram, what have you learned about God’s character?”

Being Authentically Me by Brittaney Chellsen—”These stories just don’t fit into a cute card that reads, ‘Thank you for being a part of my year and my life. I appreciate you!’ A card that simply was not authentically me because I could not express so much in so little of a space. A card that wasn’t authentically me because I felt as if I was going against one of my own values: communicating with integrity. I felt the photos I used could be interpreted in a way that wasn’t congruent with the reality of the moment.”

The Me I Wanted to Be {The Grove: Authentic} by Jodie Pine—”Why did my husband get all the good spiritual gifts, while I was stuck with the wimpy ones, I wondered. We had discovered on our honeymoon that we were opposite in nearly every way, but our first three years in China loudly amplified those differences. Charly had gotten a two-year head start living in the Foreign Student Dormitory on campus as a language student before we got married. So when we returned for him to teach English there, it was already home to him. For a strong introvert, squeezing into two connecting dorm rooms, squeezing Chinese lessons into baby’s nap times, and squeezing my bike through narrow passageways of bicycle traffic to the market, made me feel like I was being squeezed all. the. time. Pushed. Out of my comfort zone.”

From Around the Web

Fostering the Relationships in a TCK’s Life

We Have a Hedgehog and His Name is Hamilton

when your child grieves: a list of books

7 Things I Learned About Babies From My Host Culture (and three things that drive me mad)

GUILTITUDE: The Guilt of Having in a World of Sacrificing

The Life Cycle of the Cross-Cultural Worker (In Five Stages)

Finally, especially for times like these: how to see through everything to what really is

And Now for Next Week

The theme is….

They are often the last faces we see before the security line pulls our attention and focus onward. They are there to greet us after hours in airports and airplanes, ready with hugs and warm coats for travel weary souls. Our parents sacrifice and love and minister too as they send us off.

And as parents ourselves, we watch our children say goodbye, make new friends, and experience new cultures right beside us. Perhaps they didn’t ask for this life, yet family calling applies to them too.

This week we are starting a series on relationships and will look at parents. How have your parents been a part of your overseas journey? How has being a parent in a cross-cultural setting shaped you and your child? We can’t wait to hear your stories this week! Come share in the comments, and we will wrap up the week with a powerful post at the Grove. Let’s celebrate parents this week on Instagram with the hashtag #VelvetAshesParents.

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