Have You Seen? {June 23, 2019}

Welcome to Have You Seen? We’ll review last week and share other posts from around the web. Enjoy rest and renewal while you cozy up for some soul-food reading. 

Last Week’s Theme: Hello

You Say “Hello” and I Say “I’ll Stay” by Lilly—”Not everyone welcomes new people the same way. And yet the way we say hello can greatly impact their experience of settling into a new culture and their desire to stay. Our family has experienced both kinds of welcomes in different countries and I can see the difference both made in our lives.”

How to Say Hello When You Have an Aching Heart by Danielle Wheeler—”If you are in a season of grief and loss, whether that is leaving your passport country, leaving your host country, or losing a dear relationship, let yourself be sad. Let the wave come and wash over you. Be kind and gentle with yourself.”

How To Welcome Her Back by Patty S—”You might think she’s finally crossed the finish line. But she is still in the in-between with questions about who she is, where she will belong, how she is going to live in this oh-so-familiar-yet-unfamiliar place. An undercurrent of grief is pushing and pulling, tugging away at her energy and focus. She is in a fog of longings and confusion and doubts and concerns. And all of this is perfectly normal.”

The Revolving Door of Hello + Simple Apple Tart {The Grove: Hello} by Ashley Felder—”I distinctly remember walking into each of our four new homes, fresh off of a 24-hour journey. One was bigger than expected. One was so white (freshly painted walls), paired with hospital-grade light bulbs, I felt blinded. One was so dirty it turned my toddler’s feet black within a few steps.Yet with each unique physical home, we were warmly welcomed by our new family, our team.”

From Around the Web

Learn more about the Enneagram on Annie F. Down’s summer podcast series!

The Importance of Goodbyes

Resurfacing Trauma, Raising TCKs, and Rekindling Joy

An Open Letter to My Expat Mom Self

10 Fun Facts for Kids about Summer Solstice

For Those Who Don’t Belong

Finally, Three Things to Remember When Guilt Arrives Uninvited

And Now For Next Week

The theme is…

re-entry prompt

Perhaps you’ve been longing to leave, the weight of all you’ve carried through the years overseas feeling like a burden too hard to bear.

Or changes in your host country, unforeseen family circumstances or organizational issues have caused your departure far sooner than you would have ever asked for or imagined.

But now here you are. Back in your passport country, trying to figure out what normal even means.

Our re-entry stories are broken and beautiful. They are full of mishaps and questions, grief and joy.

This week, we will walk down the road of re-entry. We will hear the raw stories of those who have walked before, and we hope you will share your own experiences with us- whether you are right in the thick of it, trying to prepare or able to share the hope that has come as you have settled. Share over on Instagram with the hashtag #VelvetAshesReentry.

If you need encouragement and support in your re-entry journey, we also hope you will check out our Re-entry Toolkit. You’ll find a video class taught by Danielle and Sarah as they share their own experiences and wisdom, plus access to a timed email series and private Facebook group.


Here at Velvet Ashes we want to model intentional rest. We want to give you a heads up that June 30th through July 7th will be our Sabbath week. Our blog and media platforms will be silent, and we hope you’ll use that week to focus on your own refreshment and soul care. Look for more about our Sabbath week in next weekend’s Have You Seen post!

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