Have You Seen? {June 4, 2017}

Welcome to Have You Seen? We’ll review last week and share other posts from around the web. Enjoy rest and renewal while you cozy up for some soul-food reading.

Last Week’s Theme:

Another Kind of Cost by NRM— “What I don’t think I ever understood until now, is what it cost for those left behind. What did it cost our parents who only saw us every couple of years? How did they feel only hearing about their grandson’s milestones through letters and photos? I am beginning to understand how they felt.”

Beauty in the Bleak and Harsh {Book Club} by Amy Young— “I remember when I first went to the field in my mid-to-late-twenties. It was so disorienting, not to be on ‘the other side of the world,’ but to have no context. To go from being known to having absolutely no one in my life who knew nothing outside of what I told them.”

The Cost of Yes by Kelly Delp— “And yet I am preparing for my next term on the field as 34 creeps up to me. I am not aging in a sense that my body is failing me or my mind is dimming, but age is presenting itself in my mind increasingly as I consider what my body will be able to do in a few years. It is in this phase of my life that, if I stay overseas, the door to having children will slowly close and lock.”

Honoring My Parents When I Live on the Other Side of the World by Julie Breuniger— “When my husband and I moved back overseas after raising our family in America, we soon realized that most “M’s” close to our age were heading back to their passport countries to be closer to their young adult children or to care for aging parents. Our local friends here ask us why we are not home caring for our elderly parents and our grandchildren?  They cannot fathom why we would leave our family.”

Embracing my Need for Mentorship {The Grove: Aging} by Lauren Pinkston— “What I’ve learned from my recent past is I need women. Especially those of you who are…ahem…aging. Like, ahead of me. I need you pretty much exactly like Titus 2:3-5. Because there are times when I’m losing it on my husband and I need you to teach me to be patient. There are times I’m losing it on my kids and I need you to teach me to pray. There are times I’m losing it on this culture and I need you to teach me to persist.”

From Around the Web

When Your Parents Wish You Weren’t Far Away: An Interview with Diane Stortz

The Myth of the Ever-Happy Overseas Servant

One Thing

SARCASM: The Sixth Love Language

8 Tips For Keeping Kids Engaged During Phone Or Video Calls

And finally, Beating Back Cultural Stress with Exploration

And Now for Next Week

The theme is . . .

Life on the field is all the things, though not all at the same time.




Heart breaking.

Unfair. Unjust. Unmanageable.

Generous. Rich. Life-giving.

How do we take all that God allows into our lives and stay resilient? How do we stay tender to God, ourselves, and others in the face of nearly constant stress, occasional trauma, and  the unexpected? Yet we know we are beloved by God. We trust that He does not play with us.

Join the discussion this week as we explore this paradox in the comments, on Instagram using #VelvetAshesResilience, and then at The Grove beginning Thursday 6pm EST. Bring your blog posts to link up.

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