Have You Seen? {March 1, 2015}

Welcome to Have You Seen?  We’ll review last week and share other posts from around the web. Enjoy rest and renewal while you cozy up for some soul-food reading.

Last Week’s Theme: Community

The Transient Community of a Life Overseas  by Lauren Pinkson — “I’d been warned of this when I moved abroad. I had heard that many people would move in and out of my life. I’d read about the fluidity of relationships in the international community. But for the first time, I experienced the sting of a farewell that I hadn’t initiated myself.”

“After all, there’s still me.” You Go Girl. {Book Club} by Amy Young — We finished up with The Pastor’s Wife. “In light of Ingeborg, I was impressed with her tenacity to keep trying in life. ‘After all, there’s still me.’ And after  year of reading the journals and books she’d ordered, she noticed ‘cheerfulness kept creeping in.’ I love that phrase. Where have you noticed cheerfulness creep in?”

How a Connection Group Changed My Life by Kristi Krauss — “This summer I had a counseling appointment, where member care said I was headed for serious trouble. I have a stressful job, I have been isolated for too long, and I now have two stress-induced long-term illnesses. She told me I needed to find some English company and make it a priority, as well as take some time off. I looked and looked, but didn’t find anything.”

Cracks In Community by Laura — “Cracks and bumps are a part of life in community, and serving cross-culturally can magnify the imperfections in ourselves and in our community. How we handle the small, superficial cracks will determine how we deal with the deeper ones.”

6 People that Kill Community {The Grove} by Danielle Wheeler — “I’ve seen enough of community overseas to see some patterns, paths that we fall into that end up killing community among us. It’s not an exhaustive list because that would be a book. It draws mainly from the female experience, but I think you’ll agree it’s not gender exclusive. Today I’d like to offer up a word about…”

From Around the Web

Insights and Interviews From the 2014 Families in Global Transition Conference: The Global Family Redefined — Jo Parfitt Sue Mannering Dounia Bertuccelli  — “2015 marks the 17th Families in Global Transition conference which currently takes place in Washington, DC, attended by people from every sector: corporate, Ms, military and education. Researchers, teachers, spouses and authors join experts in their field to share three common goals: to teach what they know; to make connections; to learn more about what it means to be globally mobile.”

Ask A Counselor: How do we keep our marriage strong in strange circumstances? by Kay Bruner — “Reader Question: How do we practically care for our marriage and stay connected when we are living in the rural bush in the middle of Africa? …very little privacy, no babysitter, no places to go for a “date”, homeschooling kids, daily life already takes so much energy, not a lot of things to do together that we used to enjoy in our life in our passport country…struggling with this one right now, especially as we are going through transition.”

Not all of us are Americans, but for those who are: 5 Things to Know Before You File Your 2014 US Expat Taxes by Norman. Good reminder for all of us to check out laws in our countries.

Money Gives us Power over People by Chris Lautsbaugh — “Last month at A Life Overseas, we discussed the dangerous stories we can tell in order to raise funds. This requires further consideration if we provide funds, pay national workers, or are just generous in any way. While the debate on this one is hot and heavy, I doubt we can make absolute statements… What I would like to look at is the power money gives us over people.”

And Now for Next Week

The Theme is…


Crisis is, by definition, something that blindsides you with it’s difficulty.  It sets you reeling with all the questions, “WHAT? …Why? …How? …What now?”

What do you do when crisis hits on the field?  What happens if you are plane rides away from your go-to “help me” people?  How do you survive crisis then?

If you’ve ever experienced crisis, on or off the field, if you are currently going through crisis, this week is for you.  This is a time and a place for you to process. It’s somewhere you can find some listening ears.  It’s a place to find a story of hope to grab hold of.

This week is also a place for us to learn how to walk with someone through crisis, because, Lord knows, that’s a tough road to be on.

We’ll be talking about hard ugly stuff this week, infidelity and rape and robbery and health problems too.  Whatever your crisis is or had been, there’s room for your story too.

We’re not here to say, “It’s all okay.”  Because we know that it’s not.  Sometimes things are the opposite of “okay.”  So no need to sugar coat or tie up your stories in happy bows.

Together we’ll lean in and lean hard on the truth of Him who holds us through it all.

Join us at The Grove beginning Thurs 6pm EST and bring your link ups to share.

Photo Credit : Gratisography

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