Have You Seen? {March 8, 2015}

Welcome to Have You Seen?  We’ll review last week and share other posts from around the web. Enjoy rest and renewal while you cozy up for some soul-food reading.

Just so you know, we’ve been praying and prepping for our spring series for months, and we’re kicking it off this week!  Check it out below.  

Connection Groups also start this week! Pam G, in Karen’s group, we don’t have a correct email address for you. Please contact us at [email protected]

Last Week’s Theme: Crisis

My Husband and I Aren’t the Only Ones Who Faced This, Right? by Emily Thomas — “I’m not minimizing infidelity. What I aim to do here is maximize God’s ability to work everything out for our good if we love Him.”

The Book That Changed My Life {Book Club and a Give Away!} by Amy Young — “‘Expectations’ has become one of the buzz words of our modern lexicon. This book single handedly took this over-used but under-understood word and pulled the curtain back on our lives as cross-cultural workers.”

All I Could Think About Were the Worst-Case What-Ifs by Kayla Lemon — “You never realize how much you value security and safety until …”

In-Flight Emergency by Laura — “How flexible are we when a crisis occurs in our lives or the lives of those we care about? Are we willing to drop everything in order to help them? As a planner I’m …”

When The Crisis Is In You {The Grove: Crisis} by Amy Young — “Boom. Now we’re talking Moses. I seriously doubt this passage will the next popular tattoo or printable art or up for scripture tea bag material. But maybe it should be.”

From Around the Web

Parents needing some help in your parenting, but live far away from resources? “Before bed each night, plop a laptop on a pillow and spend 20 minutes with Mark and Jan Foreman, parents of Jon and Tim Foreman who front the band Switchfoot.” Here’s a 5 session course for a reasonable price!

Free books for you kids at Kid’s Books Without Borders. You heard me right! Read here to see how it worksHere are two other sources with free shipping of books around the world: Book Depository and Fish Pond.

Keeping in Touch Long Distance by Rachel Pieh Jones — “My kids are growing up 12,290 miles from both sets of grandparents… And yet, I think my kids have a pretty close relationship with their immediate and extended family. We’ve worked at it and with a lot of help from innovative and loving grandparents, have discovered creative ways to stay in touch beyond Skype and emails.”

And for a little breathing room for your soul: You Don’t have to Care About Everything by Addie Zimmerman.

And Now for Next Week

The Theme is…


We were sitting at Starbucks in Fresno, California. That’s when it came up in conversation.

All of us ladies were attending Link Care, an intensive counseling program designed for women serving overseas. We had spent hours together in our group sessions with soggy tissues balled up in our hands. This was the last night before many of us were leaving, so we piled into two cars and went out for one last time together.

“Have you heard of the book called ‘Expectations and Burnout: Women Surviving the Great Commission?” one of the women asked.

I nearly choked on my Italian soda. What?? There is a book with that title? Why have I never heard of it?

I knew that book had my name all over it. I waited until I was settled back into my China home, and then I dove in. I found myself glued to the glowing pages of my e-reader, journaling ferociously as I read.

I finished the last page and breathed a deep sigh. So much of what I had been struggling with and learning was there in those chapters. I wanted to turn back to page one and start all over again. But I didn’t want to do it alone. I wanted to walk through this book with other women walking the same path. I wanted to plumb the depths of its themes and talk it out with all of you.

I wanted us all to experience the richness that I had found in my Link Care women’s group, where women opened up about their struggles and the deep places where those struggles were born. I wanted us to feel each other’s gentle nudges towards healing and freedom.

Amy had been equally moved by the book, and so we decided that for the first time ever, Velvet Ashes is aligning our weekly themes with the discussions at book club. If you’ve never joined in on book club before, you’ll want to jump in with “Expectations and Burnout.”

This spring we’re intentionally walking through a series designed to lead us through the hard themes and on to freedom and renewal for our lives.  We’re kicking it off this week with the topic of “Burnout.” From our submissions, we already know this is a topic that hits so many of us, whether we’ve teetered close to brink of burnout, or we’ve been down in the depths of it.

This is a safe place to bring your stories of brokenness. You’re in good company. No judgment, only grace and understanding extended. If you’re in the hard middle of despair right now, we’re not afraid of your raw story. Write it. Bring it to The Grove.

If you’re learning to live in freedom and grace, throw that line of hope out to others. Write your story and share it at The Grove, beginning Thursday 6pm EST.

Eager to walk through this series with you,

Danielle Wheeler & the VA team


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  1. Lisa C March 7, 2015

    Another great source for books with free worldwide shipping: Better World Books. http://www.betterworldbooks.com. They deal in used books so it’s a fun site to browse and look for treasures. (Not an affiliate, just a satisfied repeat customer.)

    1. Amy Young March 7, 2015

      Lisa, thanks! I’m always on the hunt for how to get books at a reasonable rate! I’ll have to check them out 🙂

  2. Elizabeth March 7, 2015

    Thanks for sharing the post from Addie. Very freeing. Goes right along with some of the stuff from Expectations and Burnout. And mirrors something my friend Anisha said on FB recently (she comments and links up here regularly), but instead of “not my thing,” she said, “not my purpose.” Good to remember those messages. . .

    Looking forward to really expanding the themes in the book and having the weeks line up with it — now I understand why the upcoming themes all seemed to be linked together. It was on purpose! Love you girls.

    1. Amy Young March 7, 2015

      Oh Elizabeth, you enrich us so much :). I wonder how you do it with all you have on your plate!

  3. Grace L March 8, 2015

    I want to share this wonderful resource: http://lifeversebooks.com/

    When you sign up here, they send you a daily email with free and greatly discounted Christian books available electronically through Amazon.com. Each day 12 book are offered at prices ranging from $.99 to 3.99 (US$)  and 4 books are offered for FREE. My Kindle is now loaded up with so many wonderful Christian books, most of which I downloaded for free. If you have a Kindle or other e-reader, I highly recommend this resource.

    1. Amy Young March 8, 2015

      Grace, thank you for the resources! Can’t wait to check them out 🙂

  4. Ruth March 9, 2015

    I second the recommendation for Better World Books!  We’ve used them a couple of times.  We’ve found a lot of bargain kids books for less than $5 – which is pretty good when you count in the free shipping worldwide! They also donate books when you buy books, so that’s cool.

    1. Amy Young March 9, 2015

      Thanks for the shout out and confirmation 🙂

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