Have You Seen? {May 10, 2015}

Welcome to Have You Seen?  We’ll review last week and share other posts from around the web. Enjoy rest and renewal while you cozy up for some soul-food reading.

For Mother’s Day

(because there isn’t a card that says this)

Our mothers are the ones wiping tears away at the airport security gate. Our mothers are the ones who sometimes wish their daughters hadn’t grown into such risk-takers, that we didn’t buy the house down the street. Because, it’s oh-so-hard to have your heart reside across the sea.

Our mothers are the ones who live with the ache. They are the ones with a sacrifice they didn’t choose. They are the ones that know the depths of trust and release.

Their love is our anchor, the constant in our lives. Their prayers are the unseen guard around us. Their years of selfless care poured into us now flow through us to a world in need. They are world changers, our mothers.

Inside heaven’s gates, there’s a special place for our mothers, and an embrace from the Father who will look in their eyes and say, “I know.”

On this Mother’s Day, we want to honor the women who raised us and who bravely wave us off. We send our love across the many miles. We’re looking to the day when we’ll get to spend eternity… together.

Happy Mother’s Day

P.S.  And in the words of Kimberly Joy Belez, “For those whose mothers either were not living when we went, or were not supportive, unable to understand, we offer comfort and love on a day that stings.”

Last Week’s Theme: ReEntry

You Don’t Need To Suck It Up and Get It Together by Michele Perry — “There is danger in leaving and letting someplace a world away change you, capture your heart, weave its beauty and hardship and wonder into the fabric of your very being. Once we do that, we really can never go back home again.”

Ask an Author {Book Club} by Amy Young –“Expectations and Burnout: Women Surviving the Great Commission authors Robynn Bliss and Sue Eenigenburg are with us today. (Squeal!) They open to questions you have and will pop in and out this week as time allows.” Great questions. Check out the comments.

I Had No Training On How To Return Home by Danielle Krouch — “I was trained really well for how to stay on the field.  I had no training in how to return home, however.  Being handed a re-entry book and given a one-hour seminar on the actual logistics of leaving our organization obviously didn’t even begin to prepare us.”

Returning Well – Looking Back, Moving Forward by Melissa Chaplin — “And so nearly every day for the last five years, we have been crafting, honing, field-testing (a grateful shout-out to those of you who were part of that process!), editing, and polishing Returning Well: Your Guide to Thriving Back “Home” after Serving Cross-Culturally.”

Re-stinkin’-entry {The Grove: ReEntry} by Kimberly Todd — “For fog to be the dominant atmosphere still ten months after the actual point of reentry into my home culture has surprised me. Apparently it shouldn’t have.”

From Around the Web

Here are a few of our gem posts on re-entry from last year that you want to be sure you don’t miss:

1. If you’re feeling guilty about leaving the field, you need to read The Grove: Return.
2. How to Know If You’re a Pre- or Post-Griever (and why it matters)
3. 11 things you need to know about re-entry from I Have Listened to Your Stories

What is spiritual whitespace and why do we need it? This podcast interview with Bonnie Gray  explores the importance of rest.

Here are 6 Ways to Be Certain of the “Call”

Debriefings are not only for those who are struggling. Everyone needs to be debriefed – and regularly. Everyone. Regularly. Including yourself.” Why You Need a Debriefing. Yes You.

A gentle reminder that you’re already so loved.

Katherine Johnson has written for Velvet Ashes and helped with graphics on occasion. We deeply appreciate her! In this interview she shares how she and her husband are learning to love fiercely and hold loosely with an unexpected pregnancy twist.

And Now for Next Week

The Theme is…


Change is on the horizon.  You see it looming there.  You blink and it is closer…then closer still.  You know that once it’s here, things will never be the same.

Transition, by its very nature, redefines your normal.

Some of you are transitioning to the field, some of you are transitioning off.  Some of you are experiencing big changes right where you are.  And then for some of you life is staying the same, and that can feel like a change in itself.

God often does deep, hard, beautiful work in us during times of transition.

Here are some things to think about this week…

What are your fears as you face this transition?

What has God shown you through transitions you’ve experienced in the past?

What is he saying to you in those moments when you feel your normal slipping away?

We want to hear your story.  Bring your link ups and your comments to The Grove beginning Thursday 6pm EST.

Photo Credit : Gratisography

1 Comment

  1. Elizabeth May 10, 2015

    The blogger who wrote “Why you need a debriefing” has an excellent series on “Five Themes I See Facilitating Ill Health and Ineffectiveness Amongst Global Workers.” It was REALLY good, especially #1 (Spiritual Anemia) and #5 “Lack of Permission for Self-Development.” I really resonated with this quote from Part 1:

    “The bottom line is this: living cross-culturally requires a higher level of spiritual intake (and other forms of self-care I will mention in the next post) than living in our own culture. Anemia is deadly. What people in the world need to experience is not a well-oiled team or a slick program. Anyone can do that. What they need is the Risen Jesus Christ. Either he is overflowing from your own topped-off well or not. Not much latitude there. We need much more time in the Word, in solitude and prayer, in personal reflection, in rest, in reading books that stimulate us, in seeking counsel from others and a lot less time numbing ourselves on the web or other entertainments or pure, frenetic busyness. Nothing wrong with those realities in and of themselves within reason. (And strictly speaking, if you are living in a world of anemia, you will have a very limited ability to judge where the line of reason falls). But they will not nourish our souls to the point that we will thrive.   Let me state it again – we need a lot more time nourishing ourselves spiritually. Do you feel guilty or afraid even thinking about what that might mean? Then you are going to have to wrestle with God over that reality.”

    I think I was spiritually anemic before moving overseas. At least anemic compared to how I feel now, though I didn’t know it at the time. I HAD to go deeper, to deal with the stress of everything, and I feel in such a better place now, after having moved overseas, than I felt then — because I was forced to find a way not to be dry all the time here. Apparently what I was doing before was “le’mom” — enough — for living in America. My self care “system” was working over there. T’was insufficient here.

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