Have You Seen? {May 10th, 2020}

Last Week’s Theme: Mentoring

A Tale of Two Mentors and The God Who Always Sees by Stephanie Prater-Clarke—”Once upon a time there was a woman with two mentors – mentors she didn’t know she even needed. The two mentors had different styles, but each was critical to her survival in this overseas life. Both were the epitome of the Titus 2 woman. They were reverent and patient with her, able to build her up, teaching her good and admonishing her to live a godly lifestyle. They watered her with the Word in times of drought, prayed with her in times of loneliness, and walked beside her when the anxiety attacks raged within. Their investment in her was a living sacrifice, even until their final breaths. Enter Peggy. She was the mentor who was there from the beginning of the journey. Her heart for all things Kingdom work was met with great compassion and so much grace. She was intentional in her reaching out to those God called her to serve and even as a complete stranger, she took the woman under her wing, embracing her, her husband and their two children as a part of her own family. Their bond grew over the years, like that of kindred spirits, and they would cherish the rare moments when life would bring them together face-to-face.”

For the Joy {Book Club} by Sarah Hilkemann—”I must tell you, I’m not Aussie nor am I am mother, so I wasn’t sure if I would be able to identify with the women who tell each of these stories. But I have! I have found myself smiling, tearing up, and nodding in whole-hearted agreement. If you have had some of the same questions yourself, I think you will find your own heart moved in some way by these stories, no matter what stage of life you are in. So, the door is open wide for you to join us for book club this month as we read For the Joy! In case you need a little more convincing, check out this note from the editors of the book, Miriam Chan and Sophia Russell. ‘Whether you’re male or female, single or married, with children or without, [Kingdom worker] or not, Christian or not, these stories will draw you in. As each mother speaks of their faith in the face of adversity and experience God ministering to them in their time of need, we hope this book will help you to stand firm in your present troubles and to look ahead to the joy of future glory.’ I love that, don’t you?”

Full Circle by Monica F—”It was a warm spring day in the small market town where I lived in rural Asia and from my window I could see the glint of sun-kissed rice paddies along the hillsides. I was listening to the siren-like cry of the lady pulling her cart of steamed buns on the street below my apartment when my phone buzzed and a text came in: Monica jiejie, are you home? Cali* was a young woman, fresh out of teacher’s college, who I had been discipling since she was in high school. She carried her fresh faith quietly, but passionately. She was the first Christian in her family, and one of only a handful of believers in our small town. I admired her perseverance and desire to share her faith lovingly with her parents and friends. That day, I figured she was coming over to chat about life or drop off oranges for my kids. Minutes later she was sitting cross-legged on my floor in tears. “Monica, my parents are separating. They were screaming and yelling horrible things to each other. What am I going to do?” I listened as she poured out her fears and frustration. I held her, while holding back well-meaning words of advice that I knew would flit into oblivion the moment they came out of my mouth. This was not a time for me to talk. It was a time for me to listen. She was in pain.”

6 Helpful Tips for Mentorship by Jenilee Goodwin—”Over the years, mentorship has meant different things at different times in my life. I’ve learned that mentorship can take unique forms depending on where I am or what’s happening in my life. In some seasons, I have memories of sweet coffee shop conversations with a friend. Mentorship happening over a table without any planning or purpose, just living life together. Two friends who are learning, growing and developing in similar ways. Other times, mentorship has been more purposeful. It’s planned and detailed. It’s formal with goals and timelines. A planned meeting with someone farther along the journey. There are seasons when mentoring relationships need to be structured and well-planned with set goals in mind. Whether for leadership, teaching, growing in a specific task or desiring guidance in a certain area like health, exercise, writing or discipleship, these times of directed mentoring with a specific person can be of great value.”

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And Now For Next Week

The theme is…

Psalm 91:4 (NIV) He will cover you with his feathers,
    and under his wings you will find refuge;
    his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.

Whether we have felt the first kick of babe-in-womb or waved goodbye as the last child drove off to college, we who bear the image of God can mother.

As God covers us with His feathers like a momma hen, we protect and love and celebrate with our own children, the neighborhood kids who play on our stoop and the ones who are part of our teams.

This week we are honoring all the amazing and expansive facets of motherhood. We see you mommas of TCKs, and the moms and grandmas who send us off from airports with tears hidden behind weak smiles. We see you single women who wait and long and hold the title of “auntie” like a badge of honor. We see you who have lost babies and wait with empty arms.

Who has God called you to mother right now? Who is mothering you?

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