Have You Seen? {September 11, 2016}

Welcome to Have You Seen? We’ll review last week and share other posts from around the web. Enjoy rest and renewal while you cozy up for some soul-food reading.

Special Post Coming

This week look for a special post coming the morning of Sept 14 (U.S. time).  In this post we’ll announce some exciting information about our upcoming Fall Connection Groups, book club, and a special opportunity for people in re-entry.  Don’t miss it!

Last Week’s Theme: Teaching

When Home-Schooled TCKs Feel Lonely – and How You Can Help by Tanya Crossman—”Full disclosure: I’m not a homeschooling mum. I’m not even a mum. So why on earth am I writing a post about homeschooling?? I’m glad you asked. I lived in Asia for 11 years, and for most of that time I was a youth worker mentoring and supporting teenagers through international churches. I had the privilege of spending time with a lot of homeschool families – families from different passport countries, living in different host countries.”

There is a Doctor in the House {Book Club} by Amy Young—We discussed the middle part of Wonder and enjoyed an interview with Dr. Mendonca, a plastic surgeon who works in India with patients like Auggie.

My Mama Didn’t Teach Me by Krista Besselman— “Early in the orientation course in Papua New Guinea, we learned a polite way to refuse food offered to us. “My mama didn’t teach me how to eat that.” Considering we started interacting with our hosts with linguistic capabilities and overall usefulness of four year olds, I am sure many of our host families wondered what exactly our mamas spent our childhoods teaching us!”

3 Cheap Ways to Survive Homeschool This School Year by Jillian Kittrell—”Here is a short list of resources I have found to be extra helpful (and economical) in making homeschooling less stressful and simpler for our family. I hope they can help you too!”

Teach Me Your Way + Chocolate Cake {The Grove: Teaching} by Ashley Felder—”Two days before we were to head back to the field last month, it happened. My husband’s oldest brother suddenly passed away. It was sudden. It was confusing. It was shocking. It was awful. We got the phone call as we were headed to hang out with his siblings one last time. We all rushed to the hospital, but he was already gone. We . . .”

Instagram Highlight for #VelvetAshesTeaching


It was such a good week talking about teaching! Check out all the images with #velvetashesteaching! Here is this week’s repost from @pippyjbrooks

“A few weeks ago the curriculum I had ordered for Izzy’s first grade arrived here to the island of Palawan all the way from the States. I almost cried when I opened it. Tears of relief that is, in seeing all the lessons prepared and everything so together and organised. I had just been putting her kindergarten year together myself as we went along and I was constantly worried that I was not doing enough, or that we were missing out on something. I breathed a deep sigh of relief looking at all the books that arrived, thinking, “if I just faithfully work through this it will be enough, she will learn all she is expected to know.” Just a few days in and I can report that we are really enjoying our school hours together. I am very happy with the curriculum. But, an uneasiness hung over me as I closed out the last book for the day and it was this: I hope I don’t rely on this being enough, because there is still so much more I want to teach her.

So, today when they came running to call me to see a toad, we watched, observed, then researched, chatted and drew toads of all shapes and sizes and it wasn’t linked to our curriculum in any shape or form. They were learning simply from amazement and excitement and I never want to dull that wonder for anything.

I am still so grateful for all the materials we will use as we start our voyage into first grade; but a Mama’s heart will always be true north as we discern the unique course for each of our little ones. Curriculum is a wonderful gift, but it can also be a crutch if we don’t fuel the fire and the thirst to simply pay attention to life and learn as we go.”

From Around the Web

Ask A Counselor: How can I recover from stress, now that I’m safe?

Laughing in the Face of Transition. and Lessons on Transition…from Rapunzel.

Important Questions You May be Forgetting to Ask.

Forbidden Roots. “It’s that this normal has become so normal that I can’t imagine leaving it. Except, I know that I will someday. And even though we don’t have plans to leave Tanzania, I know that someday we will.  I am not a citizen. This is not my country. Our residence here is dependent on a fragile balance of health, financial support, and government favor. Yet the thought of leaving fills me with an intense grief, knowing that it will tear away part of my being. Not just a loss of place, but a loss of who I am.”

10 Ways to Spot Spiritual Abuse.


Finally, When You’re Waiting on God in a Lonely Season.

And Now for Next Week

The theme is . . .


That’s right.  We’re going there.  We’re going to talk directly about sexuality, this dimension that is hardly EVER talked about directly within our circles.

Have you ever heard anyone talk about how living overseas affects a couple’s sex life?

Or how about what sexuality and singleness means on the field?

THAT’S what we’re going to talk about this week.  Because our sexuality matters.  It matters to the God who created sexuality within us.  He cares deeply about us experiencing health and wholeness and joy in this area.

To help us have this conversation, we’ve created a completely anonymous sex survey for married women about how living overseas affects your sex life. This is for women currently or formerly living overseas.  It can literally take you less than two minutes.

Click here to fill out this Anonymous Sex Survey.

We’ve got some amazing posts coming up for you this week.  We want to hear from you on this topic!  Tag your Instagram pictures with #VelvetAshesSexuality.  We know, that might sound weird to some! But we are a community of mature women who have big thoughts on this issue, so let’s not be prudish about sharing what God stirs in us to share.

Join us at The Grove beginning Thursday 6pm EST, and bring your blog posts to link up.


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