Have You Seen? {September 18, 2016}

Welcome to Have You Seen? We’ll review last week and share other posts from around the web. Enjoy rest and renewal while you cozy up for some soul-food reading. 

Fall Connection Groups Reg

Three Opportunities For You This Fall

We are super excited to share with you three opportunities for you this fall. Read here to learn about

–Book Club and the free Bible study you can download

–Connection Groups. Registration opens this week! Also new groups added for young adult TCKs and moms new to the field.

–Returning Well group in October

Last Week’s Theme: Sexuality

What I Want to Teach My Daughters About Married Sex by Elizabeth Trotter—”These are the three things I want to teach my daughters someday: what the foundation for healthy married sexuality is, potential obstacles in the bedroom and what to do about them, and potential temptations outside of marriage and what to do about them.”

Our Friend Shares With Us {Book Club} by Amy Young—”I am privileged to be the mother of a son born with a facial difference. Our second child, Jonathan, was born three months before we were to move overseas. At birth, he looked ‘different,’ but the doctors could not come up with a definitive diagnosis. So off to Taiwan we went!” Thus shares Julie B as we finish off Wonder.

Not Your Average Headache by Jenilee Goodwin—”I want to encourage you… you really are dealing with more than the average headache. You have valid excuses and reasons and truly, so does your husband. You both can exclaim at the end of the day, “I just need some sleep.” The stress is that overwhelming. I also want to challenge you…”

Singles and Sexuality on The Field by Amy Young—”I have much I want to say about singles and sexuality; too much for one post. So instead of saying all the things, I’m going to talk to two camps: singles and their member care providers. . . Often when it comes to singles and sexuality we are left with the extremes of sinner or saint. We are neither. Like everyone else, we are on a path of sanctification that includes our sexuality.”

Yes, We’re Going to Talk About IT {The Grove: Sexuality} by Danielle Wheeler—”Think about it. Sexuality is one of the most conflict-ridden aspects of life. For the single . . . For the abused . . . For the addict . . . For the confused . . . For the church . . . For the married . . .”

Instagram Highlight for #VelvetAshesSexuality

Some great honest discussions happen at Velvet Ashes this week. Singles were encouraged about what their sexuality means. Couples were reminded of the intentionality their sexuality takes. Here’s a great repost for #velvetashessexuality from @sumatramama:

“What a man I married. For 6 of our 11 married years we’ve lived in an isolated, rural village of Indonesia. That means over half of our marriage has been spent needing to be *really* creative about how we look at romance, because you can’t buy flowers, good chocolate, or wine, go to a movie, a concert, a sporting event, gallery, even a quality restaurant. You can’t even go for a walk and hold hands without causing offense in this culture. In preparation for our move overseas all those years ago, I didn’t really think deeply about how different our love life would need to look, and how much harder it would be to maintain intimacy. (Not to mention the stress of having to redefine almost everything else about our lives, including and especially becoming parents to 3 littles out here.) So when some of those “luxuries” become available to us, like they are now while we’re temporarily living in a larger city, we take advantage just because. It’s not even about the flowers or the chocolates anyway, but it matters that we still remember to pursue each other’s hearts. I am a blessed woman.”

From Around the Web

Raising Kids With Forbidden Roots.

No Easy Answers.

The Place That Was Home.

I didn’t know this was a cost to count.

New Ways to Pray for Cross-Cultural Workers. 


Finally, “Are you doing this because you are loved or so that you’ll be loved?

And Now for Next Week

The theme is . . .


We know the Good Book tells us it is better to give than receive. We also know that God is the giver of all good gifts.

This week we will camp around the idea of gifts. Gifts we want, gifts that are hard to accept, gifts we only realize their value years later.

What excites you when it comes to gift giving? What makes it hard to receive a gift? How does your country of service different from your passport country when it comes to gift giving?

All this and more.

Join us by adding your own thoughts in response to this week’s posts. Don’t miss The Grove where you can link up your own blog posts on this week’s theme.

Plus, we’d love to see your photos on Instagram this week using #VelvetAshesGift.  Images will appear automatically in The Grove and one will be selected and featured in our weekend “Have You Seen?” post.

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