When Kay and I started emailing in October about her book As Soon As I Fell she graciously sent me a discussion guide she had written to accompany the book. Though I’ll make it clear when it’s me writing and when it’s Kay, I wanted you to know from the get-go the basic outline we are going to follow and the vast majority of the questions are from Kay. Thank you Kay!
In the early sections of As Soon As I Fell, Kay shares from her childhood the ways in which she was formed that would (no big surprise here) follow her on to the field — both the good and the bad. I want to ensure we create space for the good as well as the bad. While it’s true our “problems” don’t stay at the borders and come along with us, it’s also true for our strengths and giftings.
From the Discussion Guide
When researchers design a study so that they confirm their hypothesis, and find exactly what they were looking for, we call that “confirmation bias.”
- What was Kay’s hypothesis about herself in childhood?
- How was that hypothesis formed?
- How did she practice “confirmation bias” with God and other people?
- Consider these statements: “Nobody likes me.” “I’m too weird.” “I’m too much.” “I’ll always be abandoned.”
- Are these statements, or others like them, a hypothesis for you, about yourself?
- How does “confirmation bias” work in your life today?
- “God delights in you” (Zephaniah 3:17) disrupted the confirmation bias for Kay. How has scripture worked to change your heart and mind in significant ways?
There were bits of me (Amy) that made no sense when I was a child. I did not like to open birthday presents in front of people, I did not mind eating meat but I could NOT stand to cut it, and the smell of cheese? Enough said. Gross. When I arrived on the field, guess what? People told you what was in a gift when they handed it to you, most meat was cut in small pieces, and I never, ever had to special order food again (though I did have to listen to a lot of moaning from expats about cheese.). Bottom line, I wasn’t weird, I had been prepared in ways that amazed me.
Though they may all look small and silly, they were used as a form of confirmation bias in a good way. I was made for the place, so when the hard times came, I could point back to those birthdays of a girl, the revolting feeling of a knife slicing through cooked meat, and my visceral reaction to cottage cheese (my strongest reaction to a cheese) and say, “this place was ordained for me in ways I could not foresee as a child, so this hard time is not a big shocker to God.”
Oh and the bowling league I was on in elementary school? I see how God used that on the field as well. So as to get us discussing, I’ll wait and share in the comments!
Kay’s given us a lot to run with. Where would you like to dive in? Grab a cup or glass and jump on in to the chat of how your childhood formed you positively and negatively for the field.
See you in the comments :),
The plan for this month’s discussion:
- Kay will be joining us and in particular the last week of January where we can “Ask an Author.”
- January 13: How our childhood formed us
- January 20: Ministry related issues
- January 27: Marriage and family on the field
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