We are wrapping up our Enneagram journey this week as we finish reading The Road Back to You. It has been delightful to learn more about each of you- thank you for sharing your experiences as you’ve come to understand what motivates you and who God has created you to be.
Our last section looks at the Head or Fear triad, and types 5, 6, and 7. This is my space, the place my heart is most at home. I am a type 6 with a fairly strong 5 wing, although I see sprinkles of 7 sometimes too.
Let’s do a quick summary and review of these last 3 types.
Type 5 The Investigator: Healthy 5s manage an appropriate balance between participation and observation, engaging with others comfortably and demonstrating true neutrality. Average 5s hold to a scarcity mentality, which leads to hoarding time, space and affection. They struggle with anything that makes them feel incompetent or incapable. Unhealthy 5s don’t want to depend on anyone for anything. They have a defensive personality that is preoccupied with security, independence and privacy.
Type 6 The Loyalist: Healthy 6s have learned to trust their own experiences of life. They are productive, logical thinkers who almost always organize their thoughts and actions around what would be most advantageous for the common good. Average 6s question almost everything, and they struggle to get out of their heads and the pattern of worst-case-scenario planning. They find the world to be an unsafe place and respond with fight or flight. Unhealthy 6s fear the world is unfair and that most people are not who they say they are and cannot be trusted. They find fault in others and tend to fall into patterns of projection.
Type 7 The Enthusiast: Healthy 7s have embraced a full range of human emotion and are growing in their ability to accept life as it is rather than as they want it to be. They are not only fun and adventurous in this space but also spiritually grounded, practical and resilient. Average 7s entertain to feel safe and to claim their place in a group. They might find commitment to be a challenge and have great trouble finishing projects, often jumping from one thing to the next. Unhealthy 7s try to avoid pain at all costs which can lead to irresponsible behavior and seeking instant gratification. In this space they can be more prone to addiction than any other number.
We are each created in God’s image, though our sinful natures have created cracks in the ways His image is reflected. Cron and Stabile wrote in the last chapter, “Though not a comprehensive list, every number reveals a facet of God’s nature”. Have you ever thought about how your unique and distinct personality might reflect an aspect of who God is?
As a 6, anxiety can overwhelm my life, and a very unhealthy version of me includes paranoia about people (what are they hiding, what aren’t they telling me, can I trust anyone in leadership?). Yet, I am intensely loyal. If I’m your friend, most likely I’m your friend for life and will fiercely stick up for you and defend you. My siblings could tell you a hundred stories about this. While anxiety is part of my brokenness, the area in which I need the Father’s healing and restoration, I can absolutely appreciate His loyalty to me. And perhaps I can be a part of imperfectly living out for others the beauty of God’s never-ending pursuit of His children, the truth that He will never leave us or forsake us.
Where do we go from here? As we have come to understand ourselves and each other a little bit better, I hope our response is compassion. I can learn to give grace to myself when I am feeling overwhelmed, and I can respond to others and the different ways they look at the world with a desire for understanding rather than judgment.
As you’ve grown in understanding more about yourself through the tool of the Enneagram, what have you learned about God’s character?
As we finish up our discussion with the Head triad, what do you appreciate most about types 5, 6 and 7? What do you wish you understood more? If you are one of those types, what would you like to share with us so we can continue to grow together?
In February, we will be reading Newbery Medal winner A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle. Against the odds, this story (which begins on “a dark and stormy night”) is a YA sci-fi novel with a female protagonist, written in the 1960s. It is a tale of the battle of good versus evil that weaves together elements of quantum physics, Christianity, philosophy, and fantasy. And it’s among my (Rachel) top 5 favorite books of all time. I hope you’ll join me reading it!
February 5: Chapters 1-4
February 12: Chapters 5-8
February 19: Chapters 9-12
February 26: We’ll preview our spring book!