A brief note about February’s book: We are going to enjoy Elizabeth Von Arnim’s The Pastor’s Wife. I’ll be honest, I picked it because it’s free and her Enchanted April is the only novel that made the cut as I’ve moved my library around. What a treat we are in for! Following up this month’s book, I wondered how we’d keep the rich themes going. Next week I’ll give a proper introduction to the The Pastor’s Wife, for now just know you won’t want to miss this one. You can get the book in various form for free here, on kindle, or audio.
Today we’ll end our rich time exploring Kay Bruner’s book As Soon As I Fell. As much as I don’t want it to end because we’ve had rich talks, I also know I don’t need to worry about it leaving me or us. In sharing her story, Kay has created space for us to go beyond the “Wow, I’m glad I’ve read it,” allowing us to have meaty conversations. If you’ve missed them, the previous two weeks are here and here.
Today we’re going to end our talk with a look at family transitions, how we handle conflict, and pornography. And as if that weren’t enough, Kay has also said she’s open to “Ask an Author.” So, if you’ve got questions you’d like to ask Kay directly, you can in the comments.
Kay, understandably wrote the discussion questions with an eye towards how family transitions, conflict, and pornography impact marriages and the people in them. This is the beauty of a story like Kay’s, we can all connect to it at times whether it’s our story or not. Maybe the conflict you’ve experienced wasn’t in your marriage but with a teammate. Or the transition you experienced wasn’t as a family, but as a single. And though I’d rather think of pornography as a “guy” problem, let’s not fool ourselves and make it all the harder for women who wrestle with that particular beast.
Again, thank you Kay for doing the heavy lifting and coming up with questions :)!
Marriage and Family Issues
- Think about the normal transitions a family faces: couple to couple-plus-baby, to young family, to family with adolescents, to empty nest.
- How have those transitions impacted you? Either in your family of origin, or as an adult?
- How did life overseas impact these normal family transitions for the Bruners?
- What were the benefits to overseas life for the family?
- How did personality differences impact the ability to handle conflict for Kay and Andy?
- What mistakes did they make with conflict?
- What did they learn about resolving conflict?
- How has conflict impacted your life?
- What elements of reconciliation did you find in the story?
- How have reconciliation attempts failed or succeeded for you?
- What do you do, when the conflict is not a personality difference, but instead a sin problem?
- What’s your perception of how pornography impacts the church today?
- How did the pornography aspect of the story impact you?
- What is your personal and family plan for boundaries with pornography?
- Does your church talk about this issue?
Kay’s given us a lot to run with. Where would you like to dive in? Grab a cup or glass and jump on in to chat about transitions, conflict, and pornography. I’d love to hear what questions you have for Kay!
See you in the comments 🙂
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