People Pleasing 101
Hello. I’m Patty. I’m a recovering people pleaser. An overachiever addicted to the applause of approval. A woman deeply disappointed when I haven’t lived up to my own expectations and shoulds. My story is fraught with excessive “yesses” driven by staking my value in how I’m perceived and what I can contribute. This is what […]
Kicking Off Those Ill-Fitting Shoes
I feel like everyone is watching me. It is as if every area of my life has now become a topic for judgement. What stores do I shop at? Wouldn’t it be better to shop at the open market? My parenting, my language, my cooking (I mean, do you eat the national food or not […]
The People Pleasing Dilemma Vs. God
Friday morning dawns, and I am on my way to lead the women’s Bible study at my church. As I load my car with the items necessary to teach these women who have been Christians all their lives, I receive a call from my daughter who needs me to go shopping with her to find […]
Failing to People Please
Serving cross-culturally adds an entirely new dimension to people pleasing, and for those of us who struggle with wanting to please others, the pressure can be immense, especially when our income is dependent on the generosity of others. When I was raising support and reporting to supporting churches, I tried to focus on sharing my […]