This Week’s Theme: Shame

We are women admired as brave and strong for what we do.  You have to admit, the pedestal feels kind of nice.

Have you ever had someone from back home gush over you, saying, “I don’t know how you do it.  You’re amazing.”

But then there’s that nagging voice in the back of your head that whispers, “If you only knew…”

At Velvet Ashes we’ve shared our fears, we’ve talked about our doubts, but this week we’re going even deeper.  We’re talking about shame.

Jeff VanVonderen says that guilt is an emotion about what you do.  It serves as a flare about a certain behavior.  Shame, on the other hand, is a belief, a mindset, a way of thinking about yourself.  Guilt says, “I did something wrong.”  Shame says, “There is something wrong with me.”

Shame is when you can’t see yourself as God sees you, as his cherished one, clothed in Christ, forgiven and free.  Shame is what convinces you you’re not enough, that you should be better than this, and why on earth can’t you pull it together?

Can you tell it’s going to be a tender week around here?  This week’s authors are gifting us with their vulnerability.  Let’s be there to show them all our love and support.

I’ll be honest, I say this partly because I have to take deep breaths when I think about my post coming up at The Grove.  Will you meet me there?  Will you come and share your tender stories too?  Will you come with your wounds so we can together move towards healing?

See you there, friends.  (Deep breath) See you there…


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