It’s an exciting day at Velvet Ashes. Registration is now open for our Spring Connection Groups! If you are signing up for a Skype group, remember that all times are based on EST in the US after Day Light Savings time this Sunday so we won’t have to change times (for the most part!) after the groups start.
Laura Rowley is here to share with us her experience with her Connection Group this past fall.
I remember the night well. The night when I took off my shoes and sat in awe of what God had orchestrated. The night I knew I was sitting on Holy Ground.
The evening didn’t begin that way. In fact, it began with me questioning my role as a Connection Group Mentor – “I don’t know if I should be doing this … I don’t know what I have to offer to these women.”
During our Connection Group one member, who lived in a high rise in a huge Asian city, shared that when she is near a balcony in a high rise her thoughts turn toward jumping off, baby in hand. I had no idea how to respond. I’m not sure what I said or if I even said anything, but I do remember hearing another member of our group, who lives on a remote island in Central America, saying something about understanding what she was going through and postpartum hormone changes and how she had experienced a very similar, yet quite different thing at a similar life stage. It was then that I took my shoes off.
I can relate so well to Moses. From the initial struggles with stepping forward to facilitate a group. I thought, “Not me. I don’t articulate myself well.” The similarities don’t end there. For me, being a part of Connection Groups has sometimes been akin to Moses’ experience on the top of the mountain where his friends found him a rock to sit on and held up his arms for him – and when they did Israel prevailed. Connection Groups are a chance for us as women to come alongside each other, to help each other find the rock to sit on—the true foundation for the work that is happening around us—and to hold up each other’s arms or have others hold up our arms for us.
You see, I was learning it’s not about always having an answer. It’s not about making the pain go away. It’s not about fixing it. Sometimes, it’s about holding space for someone. Sometimes, it’s about pleading for mercy. Sometimes, it’s about saying, “Me, too,” or, “I know what that is like.”
So.. this is what I would say to you, the one who opens up:
Thank you for signing on to the call. Thank you for being courageous. Thank you for your vulnerability and for sharing yourself with us.
And to the one who responds:
Thank you for having the courage to say, “Me, too.” Thank you for offering to take this a step farther. Thank you for reaching out, across the miles, to hold up an arm. Thank you for being courageous and vulnerable and for being the hands of Jesus.
This is what I would say to you, the one considering whether or not to join a Connection Group or whether or not to be vulnerable with your group:
I cannot tell you that you must- that is damaging and controlling- but I want to tell you that I will be here, holding space for you to open up and feel the emotions, to tell the story and I will be here with you- probably with my shoes off, as we walk together, yet worlds away, on holy ground. And know the other mentors share this sentiment.
What holy ground experiences have you had on a team or in a small group? Are you signing up for a Connection Group?