This week at Velvet Ashes, for the first time ever, we’ve invited men to come share with us. So each day we have a guy writing on the theme “What Men Wish We Knew.” Today we’re thrilled to have Nicholas Todd, husband to Velvet Ashes’ author and editor, Kimberly Todd, here with us. Nicholas has been an encourager of this community here since before we even began. Read on and you’ll understand why we asked him to share with us…
I wasn’t exactly sure what to do. I didn’t think much of my list of job references until someone else pointed it out. Almost all of my professional references were women. They weren’t just references that confirm I had a job, but references that, based on the jobs I was applying for, would speak to my character, professional contribution, spiritual life, weaknesses, and strengths in ministry. It might seem like a small detail, but what if that was the thing preventing me from being employed? As I reflected on this gender charged powder keg of a topic, four things were stuck on repeat in my head that reminded me of my values and what was valuable about my references and you.
I wish the women of Velvet Ashes knew how important they are to their teams. Whether you sit in the place of Chairperson or are the last to sit at the dinner table, you hold a valuable place. Are you being obedient to the calling God has placed on your life? Let that be the voice you follow.
I wish you knew your opinion and input is just as valuable as anybody else’s. If the Lord gives you something to share, share confidently.
I wish you knew if you weren’t here, there would be a hole in teams, families, administration, leadership, member care, and ministry.
I wish you could remember the trouble with many men is ultimately the trouble with many women. We BOTH need, not so much a vision for outreach, a vision for family, or a vision for ministry, but a vision for Jesus. Together, we can explore how our heart should respond to others.
Women are absolutely essential to the ministry of the Church. They traveled with Jesus and the Twelve, were present at the cross, were the first to believe of his resurrection, and testified to his being raised (Luke 8:1-3, John 19:25, Luke 24:8-11). My personal favorite is Mary Magdalene at the tomb in John 20. She knew the sound of her name on her Savior’s lips! Do you? I often hope I would be more like Mary in this life, that I would recognize my name coming from my Savior’s lips, and respond obediently.
In the end I changed nothing about my references. The women listed as my references were the absolute best people that could speak to my character, professional contribution, spiritual life, weaknesses, and strengths in ministry. If someone in ministry didn’t want me because almost all my references were women, I didn’t want to work for them.
I got my dream job, by the way, and recognizing that God and others are responsible for the accomplishments in my life, multitudes of thanks to all that poured into this vessel, especially the women. The Jesus loving, tongue holding, Truth speaking, classroom teaching, Church challenging, references that inspire me to pour into others, men and women alike.
To what role has God called you? Do you believe it’s important?
Photo Credit : Nicholas Todd