We’re thrilled to have One Word 365’s founder, Alece Ronzino, at The Grove with us. She’s here to share her story and lead us all in sharing our own one word for 2014.
Everything was spinning out of control the first time I felt the nudge…
My husband had left and the nonprofit we’d founded was in jeopardy of closing… I felt like a huge failure in every possible way. And as New Year’s approached, I struggled to see the hope in the start of a new calendar. The promise of a fresh beginning seemed like a bait-and-switch mirage. The mere thought of writing a list of resolutions left me feeling completely discouraged before I even started.
New Year’s Resolutions had never really worked for me. I would start the year with intense focus and commitment, writing a long list of goals for the next twelve months. But inevitably, six weeks in, I’d be hard pressed to even recall anything on the list. And I definitely never managed to cross even half of them off by the end of the year. (Let’s be honest, usually by December I had no idea where my written list even was.)
Already feeling like a miserable failure, I couldn’t imagine setting myself up to fail yet again with another round of resolutions. So in my own Resolution Revolution, I decided to scrap the whole idea and instead choose just one word to focus on all year long. I figured that one word would at least be memorable, and could serve as a touchstone—something to keep returning to when I needed clarity or anchoring.
I wanted one word to be the filter through which I made decisions, the lens through which I chose to see myself and others, and the compass pointing me to True North. It wasn’t about something I wanted to do so much as it was about who I wanted to become.
And the nudge I felt—the word that kept rising to the surface—absolutely terrified me. It seemed too big. Too daunting. It felt like a loose cannon, and I couldn’t possibly imagine where this word would lead me. But I couldn’t shake it.
So I finally committed to it, and said it out loud, and proclaimed it on my blog: Risk.Even now, a few years later, I take a deep breath just thinking about all the risk that year held for me—or rather all the risk I purposefully pursued that year. I was stretched and challenged in so many ways. And I am a better person for it.
I went on vacation with a bunch of people I’d met only 3 weeks before. I rappelled 100 feet into a Mexican canyon. I prayed risky prayers. I went on an eight-week fundraising trip by myself. I completed a half-marathon. I had difficult conversations, made some really hard decisions, pursued answers for long-term health challenges, and hit publish on especially-vulnerable blog posts.
I was stretched to my limits, but I discovered my limits went farther than I ever anticipated. I was hurt more deeply than I imagined possible, but the plumb line of pain showed me just how deep my heart runs. I trusted again only to have it stolen or abused at times, but I learned that I hadn’t lost that skill entirely. I tentatively opened my heart a bit at a time, but experienced the matchless gift of being loved well. I held my breath as I stepped into potentially joy-filled moments, only to realize I still had laughter in me. I doubted more than I believed, but I saw what a mustard-seed-sized dollop of faith in a mind-blowingly big God can do.
I had a love/hate relationship with risk, but it completely shaped my year. More than that, it completely shaped me.
Would you join me in doing something a little different for 2014? Choose just one word that you can focus on every day, all year long. One word that sums up who you want to be or how you want to live. And remember: If it doesn’t scare you at least a little bit, it’s probably not the right word.
Choose your word and join the global One Word 365 tribe. I assure you… It’s worth the risk.
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