Why Connection Matters More than Connection Groups {The Grove: Connection}

You have been there. I know this without us ever discussing it. The maddening frustration of a poor Skype connection. What? I’m sorry, I missed that. You said something about Jason? I think I missed every other word. Static. What? What? ARGHHHHH. So why do we still do it?

Because connection matters. There is a world of difference between partial connection or poor connection and actual connection. I’m afraid you might think this post is a veiled attempt to push Connection Groups and you’ve either already signed up or decided this spring isn’t a good time for you, so why keep reading?

Right now I’ll tell you how little I care about Connection Groups and how much I care about you connecting to God. To yourself. To others. God is the God of Connection. He is the God who is going to keep pursuing you to be connected in the most holistic, holy way. We have become so used to disconnection, we don’t even realize it wasn’t meant to be our norm. And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden.

We call it The Fall, but after meditating and preparing for the post, I’m inclined to call it The Disconnection. They hid. What more is hiding than disconnecting? Disconnection started with being disconnected from God but it didn’t end there. It also includes:

Disconnection from ourselves. Nathan told David a story and it ended with this line: “You are that man.” In an instant David saw how very disconnected he had become from himself, from his values, from the way he wanted to interact and lead. Did he fail again? Yes. But in that instance, God reconnected him back to himself.

Disconnection from nature. I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten (Joel 2:25). Some of you live in crowded, dirty, removed from nature places. Some of you live in places where the pollution is approaching natural disaster levels. Some of you live in beautiful places made unbeautiful by military presence. Swarming Locust is not an image of connection, is it? 

Disconnected from others. After being disconnected from God, Adam and Eve each experienced disconnection by pointing outside of themselves. The woman you gave me …. The serpent deceived me. This is the first documented case of “divide and conquer.” Because relationships are so important to God and his triune nature, much space is given in the Bible to the ways we are disconnected from each other. I could have included multiple examples in most of the following categories, showing that they are not anomalies.

  • Siblings: Cain and Abel
  • Spouses with normal whack-a-doodle disconnection: Moses and Sarah (What wife? She’s my sister.)
  • Spouses with downright enmity and lying: Issac and Rebekah
  • Parent/child: Jacob thinking Joseph was dead for years
  • With in-laws: Judah and Tamar
  • Friends: Job and his friends
  • Friendship with God: Jesus and Peter (“Get thee behind me Satan” and “Was that a rooster I hear?” It encourages me that more than one of these interactions between Peter and Jesus is included in the Bible.)
  • Teammates: Paul and Barnabas over John Mark
  • Separated by distance: Due to his travels, Paul with friends sprinkled all over Asia
  • Within a religious tradition: Pharisees, Sadducees, Zealots, and Essenes

Disconnected from God. Disconnected from ourselves. Disconnected from nature. Disconnected from others. If that’s where the story ended, then yes, I’d be pushing Connection Groups to distance us from this pain. But here is the stunning part: when presented with disconnection, God didn’t turn his back, no, he made a gesture of connection. But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” Where are you?  

Disconnection was never meant to be our story so God started rewriting it immediately. Right now you may be swimming in a stream of disconnection. Feeling disconnected from God, from yourself, from the culture you live in, from your children, from your family, from what you thought your life or ministry would look like, from your spouse, from your teammates, even from your hope. Or you may be feeling the mighty rush of connection and have to stop from talking to yourself in public you’re so happy (I didn’t realize people don’t talk to themselves until I got asked one too many times who I was talking to) or singing or bouncing or baking cookies and handing them out.

Here is the heart of the gospel for all, no matter whether you are in the Valley of the Shadow of Death, on The Mountain Top, or on the Plains of the Ordinary, God is lovingly asking, Where are you? So he can meet you there. Do I want you to sign up for a Connection Group? Of course I do :). But I’d also like for all of you to become raving Denver Broncos fans (the best American football team on the planet) and know that might not be what’s best for you.

In my heart as I have prayed over this post, and I know the rest of the Velvet Ashes Team stands with me on this, what we hope is that this week has stirred afresh in you how much God loves you and wants connection for you. You are not forgotten or expendable. You are loved and seen. God can handle any answer you give to Where are you, He’ll meet you there. Where are you?


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  1. MaDonna February 24, 2017

    Well written and thought out. Love your idea of it being called The Disconnection. That resonated with me. When we disconnect from God, then disconnection can appear in so many other areas of our life. He can make the disconnected reconnect, or at least allow us to see beauty where nature seems lacking.

    1. Amy Young February 24, 2017

      Yes :)! Isn’t it redemptive and encouraging that God is the God of reconnecting!

  2. Jenilee February 24, 2017

    “God is lovingly asking, Where are you? So he can meet you there.” This was our discussion at Bible study last night! God is speaking. He is meeting us.

    1. Amy Young February 24, 2017

      So fun when God reinforces a lesson or idea he is showing us!

  3. Cindy February 24, 2017

    Amy, I love how you can articulate the crux of the matter! =) Being a mom and taking care of so many others’ needs, it is easy to forget or neglect the most important need I have… time with the one who knows and loves me the best! The enemy is so crafty as disguising the lack of it as other problems, but really this is it…..how connected I am to God is directly proportionate to how well I am doing! Thanks for sharing! =)

    1. Amy Young February 24, 2017

      Cindy great insight on how crafty the enemy is and how he will package things as problems when really they are more distractions.

  4. Paula Dannenberg March 5, 2017

    I’m not sure when this was written, but I am writing from a place of disconnection. It was highly recommended that I contact Amy to become part of one of your online groups. Is anything on FB available? I leave in a week and then will have better access to the internet.

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